7/27/2023 0 Comments I wish life had a rewind button![]() I think I understand that, and I have seen many people stuggle with a lot of the same questions. So anyway, I am rambling too lol! Thanks for taking the time. And when I think of going back to work, I no longer have the skills and in today’s world, the competition is fierce. ![]() My son going to Stanford makes me proud and I feel that I have contributed to why he was successful in high school but at the end of the day that’s still his-his success, his life, his accomplishments…not mine. I love(d) being a mom full time but that job is too selfless. I really need it.Īlso, I wish I have a career. That’s why it’s important for me to take the trip to Nepal. I don’t know what’s it’s like to just focus on me. Most of my married life, I have focused on my kids and with one away from us and the other whose health I’m constantly worried about, it is stressful and have caused me a lot of anxiety. With my oldest son leaving for college soon, I know I will feel half empty. I have started to regret focusing on my kids way too much and I feel at times, I have none left for me. So I had a lot of time to be alone and think. We do stay home a lot because we don’t want to expose my son to any more sickness. But we only become trapped in our past when we refuse to use it to grow. And it provides considerable value if we look at what we’ve done, what was good, what was bad, and try to be better next time. Our past is important because it shapes us. We should always try to learn from our choices. We are always moving forward, whether we like it or not. This is well summed up by the late Muhammad Ali: So we need to own them, and be accountable for them. We are still the owners of our own decisions. That’s not to say the past doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter if you would do something differently with what you know now, you didn’t.Ī choice we made, and now all you can do is live with the consequences. No matter how much we may wish life came with a rewind button we can’t change it. The way I see it, time spent in rumination is nothing but wasted time. Sometimes people spend so much time and energy worrying about the things they’ve done and how they should or could have done them differently that they are unable to move forward in life. Getting caught up in would’ve, could’ve, should’ve and what if? can trap you in the past. ![]() Generally speaking, rumination is a BAD thing. In psychology, rumination is a term used to describe being:Ĭompulsively focused attention on the symptoms of one’s distress, and on its possible causes and consequences, as opposed to its solution Once we’ve made choice, it’s happened – and it’s up to us to own our decisions and live with the consequences – good or bad. Was that decision actually a good one? And more importantly, if presented with the same choice in the future would we make the same decision?Įven if we later realize that the decision was a terrible one, we can’t change it. In some ways, our “intent” doesn’t matter as much as the result does. Maybe we did something because we thought it was the altruistic thing to do, or maybe we were only thinking about ourselves (basically being a selfish asshole). Maybe our choice was based on careful deliberation or maybe it was an impulsive action. And when we make them, they are the decisions that appeared right to us in that moment. ![]() We are constantly making decisions, both big and small. Pricing the car was based on a decision that seemed like the right one at the time. I mean, I could definitely use the money and I’m (now) pretty sure I would have got it. I kind of wished I could have gone back in time 24 hours and added another $500 to what I was asking. But the response also makes me think I could and probably should have charged more. Both were interested in the car, and I ended up selling it for exactly what I asked. I had a number of people interested in coming to take a look at it, and when I got home from work I had two people show up at my place right away. I posted the ad on Friday morning, hoping that the car would go within a few weeks… I took all these numbers, factored in the condition of the car, and made a judgement call on what seemed “right”. I looked up other ads for the same model and year, talked to an insurance company for an estimated value, and checked a website with estimated values for cars. What was an appropriate price? Truthfully, I had no idea. Once that was done and the car was cleaned up inside and out it was time to put it up for sale.Īll that was left was the little question of price. To get the car ready to sell we needed to bring it to a shop for a safety check, and then address any issues that came from that (thankfully there’s weren’t many). I’ve never sold anything worth more than a couple of dollars before, so the experience was actually a little bit intimidating.
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